What do you mean when you say that men and women see hate differently?

I'm not asking this to argue with you or draw things out. I've been trying to unpack this myself for a while because I think it is a big problem in public discourse. Hate is a murky term - it can describe a whole complex of behavior but also a very narrow emotional experience that's part of the complex.

It makes it convenient for people who want to dodge accusations; they can just say they don't experience the emotion.